Sorry, Tink, I was busy and I am still late with everything.
The symbols were, finally, quicker and less confusing: three couples 1) red 2) green 3) blue (any couple can start; and the return trip can also be done by the wifes)
Oops - my explanation is too long, even with the symbols ...
I'll try a shortened version:
Aa Bb Cc
Aa Bb Cc (crossing)
C returns, c remains
Aa, C Bb (crossing)
B returns, b remains - b + c
C B Aa (crossing)
A returns, a remains - a + b + c
C AB (crossing)
B returns, A remains - Aa + b + c
CB (crossing) Aa Bb Cc